(Step 5 of 7 Self-Love Mini-Series) Protect yourself from unhealthy relationships
We all instinctively know that protection involves the physical sense of not being harmed, but there is another way just as violent but leaves no mark, which is the realm of emotional and psychological violence. These pretty often don't get the same sort of recognition because they are not so visible but they are extremely hurtful to a person, and those bruises don't go away. So many of us would rather be physically hurt than emotionally or mentally hurt because it stays with us even when we are not actively thinking about it, and our patterns and behaviours are based on those experiences.
Join the conversation with your host Bettina as she shares more about protecting yourself from people that you know in your gut are unhealthy for you. Giving is wonderful and it is part of showing love to others, but if there is no sense of security, protection and value to you and your time, it is not going to help you. However, when you express love to yourself, you don't put up with unhealthy relationships.
During this episode, you will learn about;
[00:01] Intro and what in for you in today’s show
[01:09] The two sides to protection and what they mean
[02:14] Bettina’s experiences of psychological and emotionally destructive relationships
[04:21] Seven signs of an unhealthy relationship
[04:44] 1. When you cannot go to the specific person for emotional support
[05:51] 2. The person is trying to take centre stage and cuts you off from your social circles
[06:27] 3. You are told you only have two reasons for being around, Physical looks and what you can bring to the table
[07:28] 4. You don't have a sense of security in your relationship
[09:21] 5. Your successes are never truly celebrated
[10:27] 6. They always joke about leaving
[11:46] 7. You are constantly told how lucky you are to have them in your life
[12:57] A quick recap
[14:05] Giving in a relationship and how we get burned out
Notable Quotes
• Sometimes things come to you when they're supposed to so you can have something to offer somebody else.
• You are not in a protected self or place when you cannot go to a specific person for emotional support.
• When you see nothing but a sea of red flags, you're not in a protected relationship, and it doesn't help if you have a red flag waving if you don't do anything about it.
• We all deserve to have those moments when we can be celebrated.
• We are truly meant to have relationships where we are two whole individual people that can come together to have a good time and do life together.Resources Mentioned
Here is the book discussing (https://www.adamgrant.net/give-and-take)
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